![]() My toddler turns two on Wednesday. Two! Fourteen and a half years ago I gave birth for the first time and then did it again four and a half years later with my second-born. Life was moving along at the usual pace of a busy family of four, and then I turned forty. And I found out I was pregnant. After the initial shock wore off, we were delighted to be entering the world of babies again. Despite all the information and research out there that supports older moms having more potential prenatal/postnatal issues, I am grateful to say that I did not experience these in any capacity. In fact, of my three pregnancies, labors, deliveries, and postpartum periods, baby number three was by far my easiest. As I approach my "baby's" second birthday, I've been reflecting a lot on how it's different being a mom at 42 than it was when I was 28. Here's what I've learned and what I wish I could go back to tell my 28 year-old "new mom" self. 1. The baby phase is so fleeting. Time pauses for no one, and a baby that stays tiny is no exception. So rock that baby a little longer, worry less about the pressing chores, and inhale that sweet baby smell just a little longer. Repeat. 2. This too shall pass. My wise grandmother said this to my mom who has often said it to me. (I'm sure I'm not the only one who has heard these words!) "I know it's hard, honey, but this too shall pass." When the sleepless nights seem as if they'll never end, when the tantrums seem more frequent than you'd like, when you're pretty convinced your teenager will still be wearing diapers because they insist on using them instead of the toilet, when your pre-adolescent rolls their eyes at you and then hugs you lovingly two minutes later, this too shall pass. When you're downright convinced you are completely screwing up this parenting thing and are thinking that they'll likely turn into juvenile delinquents, just remember these wise words: THIS. TOO. SHALL. PASS. 3. Enjoy the little moments along the way. They are only little once, so take time to go exploring, sit on the floor and build blocks with them, go to the petting zoo and see the animals, read lots of great books with them, and live in the moments of life with them. Seeing their wide-eyed wonder at discovering this world has meant so much more to me this time around than it did fourteen years ago. I feel like I spent those early years just trying to survive! 4. And finally...don't sweat the small stuff. Now that I am the mom of a teen, a tween, and a toddler, I am learning to let go of the things that I cannot control. {True confession: I am a MAJOR work in progress where this area is concerned, as I have notoriously been a control freak.} I have learned that it's a terribly unhealthy way to live and I'm not doing my family any favors either. The biggest life lesson that I feel I am learning now is that I have focused WAY too much on things that have no eternal significance. In the day to day, the little stuff (that often seems SO BIG) is truly so petty when I stop long enough to consider the bigger picture. Relationships matter. Listening matters. Kids matter. If you're a new mom, an expectant mom, or a seasoned mom, I encourage you to soak up all the moments today. Life is so fleeting, and the time so short. That little hand will not always be safely held in yours. Many moms are experiencing their not-so-little ones flying the nest at this time of the year. With tears in their eyes, they might look longingly at your baby or wee one and say something like this: "Enjoy them while they're little. One day, they'll be gone!" As always, thanks for reading! ~Happi
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Julie Fors
8/8/2016 02:18:27 pm
This is beautiful. I am one of those sending my "little ones" out of the nest. How precious are the memories we've made. I'm going to hug them extra tight today!
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Happi's Mom
8/9/2016 05:21:14 am
This was so wonderful honey!!!!!!! So proud of the woman you've become, and all the wisdom you've gained!! Thanks for sharing it with others!! I love you, and you'll always be my baby girl!!
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Happi
8/9/2016 06:20:57 am
Thank you mom! I'm so grateful for you!
Hapoi
8/9/2016 06:21:45 am
Thank you Julie! I thought of you as I wrote that last paragraph!
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As a mother of 6 who had her first at 20 and her last one at 36, I agree with everything you said. My youngest is 14 now. I've learned so much and I'm not finished yet.
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AuthorHappi loves serving families in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago as a labor doula and childbirth educator. When she's not at a birth, she loves spending time at home with her loving husband and homeschooling her sons. She also finds great joy in serving the Lord at her church and teaching children about the love of Jesus! Archives
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